Archive for January, 2014

Woman charged with strangling her 8-year-old daughter

Posted on January 29, 2014. Filed under: Abuse Neglect Death | Tags: , , , |

Jan. 25th – OKAYAMA —

Police said Friday they have charged a 51-year-old woman with murder after she allegedly strangled to death her 8-year-old daughter at their home in Kibichuo, Okayama Prefecture, on Jan 14.

According to police, the woman, identified as Chizuru Kojima, used a towel to strangle her daughter Miori after she had returned home from her special needs school that day, Fuji TV reported. Police said that after killing her daughter, Kojima then went into the kitchen and inflicted several life-threatening wounds on herself with a sharp knife.

The girl and her mother were found in their apartment at around 5:40 p.m. They were rushed to the hospital immediately, but the girl was pronounced dead upon arrival.

Following her recovery on Thursday, Kojima was quoted as telling police, “After killing my child, I could only think that I too had to die.”

Kojima’s husband was at work at the time.

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Oita woman arrested over death of 7-year-old son

Posted on January 29, 2014. Filed under: Abuse Neglect Death | Tags: , , , |

 JAN. 25, 2014 – OITA —

Police in Oita have arrested a 40-year-old woman over the death of her 7-year-old son.

According to police, the woman, identified as Noriko Okada, killed her son Koki sometime between midnight and 2 a.m. on Friday. NTV reported that Okada’s husband called 119, saying that Koki was unconscious and bleeding from the mouth.

When an ambulance arrived, Koki was in a state of cardiopulmonary arrest. He was confirmed dead shortly after at a hospital.

Police said there were strangulation marks on the boy’s neck and that Okada had admitted to killing her son, but has so far given no motive.

Okada and her husband have two other children—a daughter, 17, and a son, 6.

Police said Okada had been institutionalized several years ago and that her family reported that her behavior had started becoming erratic about two months ago, according to NTV.

Japan Today

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Woman arrested for leaving daughter naked out on balcony

Posted on January 13, 2014. Filed under: Abuse Neglect Death | Tags: , , |

 JAN. 13, 2014- NAGOYA —

Aichi prefectural police have arrested a 35-year-old unemployed woman for leaving her 6-year-old daughter naked out on a balcony.

According to police, the mother has admitted to the charge, but has claimed that she acted entirely in the name of discipline.

Sankei Shimbun reported that on Sunday, at around 2 p.m., the woman undressed her daughter, bound her hands with duct tape, and pushed her out onto the cold second-story balcony. She was left there for quite some time, unable to reenter the apartment on her own, as the doors and windows had been locked.

According to police, the woman was living alone with her two daughters in the apartment building. After placing her 6-year-old daughter on the balcony, the woman and her second child left the premises. About three hours later, neighbors spotted the young girl and notified the police, Sankei reported.

Police said the young girl has been taken into protective custody. According to police, the girl’s left wrist was bleeding from the tight bindings, but there were no other visible injuries.

Japan Today

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Co-Parenting After Divorce

Posted on January 4, 2014. Filed under: Divorce, Parental Alienation Syndrome | Tags: , , , |

The Impact of Parental Alienation on Children

by Edward Kruk, Ph.D.

I offer the first installment of a three-part series examining (1) the impact of parental alienation on children, (2) the effects of parental alienation on parents, and (3) programs, services and interventions that combat alienation and seek to reunite estranged parents and their children.

What children of divorce most want and need is to maintain healthy and strong relationships with both of their parents, and to be shielded from their parents’ conflicts. Some parents, however, in an effort to bolster their parental identity, create an expectation that children choose sides. In more extreme situations, they foster the child’s rejection of the other parent. In the most extreme cases, children are manipulated by one parent to hate the other, despite children’s innate desire to love and be loved by both their parents.

Parental alienation involves the “programming” of a child by one parent to denigrate the other “targeted” parent, in an effort to undermine and interfere with the child’s relationship with that parent, and is often a sign of a parent’s inability to separate from the couple conflict and focus on the needs of the child. Such denigration results in the child’s emotional rejection of the targeted parent, and the loss of a capable and loving parent from the life of the child. Psychiatrist Richard Gardner developed the concept of “parental alienation syndrome” 20 years ago, defining it as, “a disorder that arises primarily in the context of child custody disputes. Its primary manifestation is the child’s campaign of denigration against a parent, a campaign that has no justification. It results from the combination of a programming (brainwashing) parent’s indoctrinations and the child’s own contributions to the vilification of the target parent.” Children’s views of the targeted parent are almost exclusively negative, to the point that the parent is demonized and seen as evil.

As Amy Baker writes, parental alienation involves a set of strategies, including bad-mouthing the other parent, limiting contact with that parent, erasing the other parent from the life and mind of the child (forbidding discussion and pictures of the other parent), forcing the child to reject the other parent, creating the impression that the other parent is dangerous, forcing the child to choose between the parents by means of threats of withdrawal of affection, and belittling and limiting contact with the extended family of the targeted parent. In my own research on non-custodial parents who have become disengaged from their children’s lives (Kruk, 2011), I found that most lost contact involuntarily, many as a result of parental alienation. Constructive alternatives to adversarial methods of reconnecting with their children were rarely available to these alienated parents.

Parental alienation is more common than is often assumed: Fidler and Bala (2010) report both an increasing incidence and increased judicial findings of parental alienation; they report estimates of parental alienation in 11-15% of divorces involving children; Bernet et al (2010) estimate that about 1% of children and adolescents in North America experience parental alienation.

There is now scholarly consensus that severe alienation is abusive to children (Fidler and Bala, 2010), and it is a largely overlooked form ofchild abuse (Bernet et al, 2010), as child welfare and divorce practitioners are often unaware of or minimize its extent. As reported by adult children of divorce, the tactics of alienating parents are tantamount to extreme psychological maltreatment of children, including spurning, terrorizing, isolating, corrupting or exploiting, and denying emotional responsiveness (Baker, 2010). For the child, parental alienation is a serious mental condition, based on a false belief that the alienated parent is a dangerous and unworthy parent. The severe effects of parental alienation on children are well-documented; low self esteem and self-hatred, lack of trust, depression, and substance abuse and other forms of addiction are widespread, as children lose the capacity to give and accept love from a parent. Self-hatred is particularly disturbing among affected children, as children internalize the hatred targeted toward the alienated parent, are led to believe that the alienated parent did not love or want them, and experience severe guilt related to betraying the alienated parent. Their depression is rooted is feelings of being unloved by one of their parents, and from separation from that parent, while being denied the opportunity to mourn the loss of the parent, or to even talk about the parent. Alienated children typically have conflicted or distant relationships with the alienating parent also, and are at high risk of becoming alienated from their own children; Baker reports that fully half of the respondents in her study of adult children who had experienced alienation as children were alienated from their own children.

Every child has a fundamental right and need for an unthreatened and loving relationship with both parents, and to be denied that right by one parent, without sufficient justification such as abuse or neglect, is in itself a form of child abuse. Since it is the child who is being violated by a parent’s alienating behaviors, it is the child who is being alienated from the other parent. Children who have undergone forced separation from one of their parents in the absence of abuse, including cases of parental alienation, are highly subject to post-traumatic stress, and reunification efforts in these cases should proceed carefully and with sensitivity (research has shown that many alienated children can transform quickly from refusing or staunchly resisting the rejected parent to being able to show and receive love from that parent, followed by an equally swift shift back to the alienated position when back in the orbit of the alienating parent; alienated children seem to have a secret wish for someone to call their bluff, compelling them to reconnect with the parent they claim to hate). While children’s stated wishes regarding parental contact in contested custody should be considered, they should not be determinative, especially in suspected cases of alienation.

Hatred is not an emotion that comes naturally to a child; it has to be taught. A parent who would teach a child to hate or fear the other parent represents a grave and persistent danger to the mental and emotional health of that child. Alienated children are no less damaged than other child victims of extreme conflict, such as child soldiers and other abducted children, who identify with their tormentors to avoid pain and maintain a relationship with them, however abusive that relationship may be.

In the second installment on parental alienation, I will examine the effects of parental alienation on targeted parents, and suggest a range of strategies for preventing and intervening in these cases in the third.


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Divorce Corp- The Divorce Industry Exposed

Posted on January 4, 2014. Filed under: Child Custody and Visitation, Divorce | Tags: , , , , |

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